Speaking up for yourself

Self-advocacy means speaking up for yourself. It can be as simple as saying which option you prefer, or as important as asking questions about a service or decision that affects you.

Everyone has the right to be heard and to ask questions. Speaking up doesn’t mean being loud or demanding. It means being clear about what matters to you, while staying respectful of others.

A preference is what you would like, or would rather have. Saying it clearly helps others understand you. Short sentences that start with “I” often work well, such as “I’d prefer the morning session.”

You can give a reason if you want to, but you don’t always have to. If things can’t go the way you prefer, you can ask what other options there are.

Asking for help is a skill, not a weakness. Most people are glad to help when they know what is needed. Try to say clearly what you need and why it matters to you.

If you don’t understand something, it’s fine to ask for it to be explained again, more slowly, in plainer words or in writing. You can also ask whether an interpreter or information in your language is available.

Before an important conversation, it helps to plan. Write down the main points you want to make and any questions you have. Put the most important point first, in case time is short.

You might practise saying your points out loud, on your own or with someone you trust. Bring your notes with you. It’s fine to read from them, and to take a moment to think before you answer.

A supporter is someone you choose to come with you, such as a family member, friend or community worker. They might help you remember your points, take notes or feel more confident.

You stay in charge. Before the conversation, agree on what you would like your supporter to do and what you will say yourself. If you ever feel unsafe, see the Need Help Now page on this site.