Course handoutLife and communication
Personal boundaries
What boundaries are, how people express them, and respecting other people’s.
Theory and discussion only · Community education, not accredited training
Key takeaways
- 01Boundaries are personal limits. Everyone’s are different, and they can change.
- 02A clear, calm no is respectful, and you don’t always need to give a reason.
- 03Respect other people’s boundaries by asking first and accepting their answer.
In this course
01What a personal boundary is
- Physical: personal space and touch.
- Time: how much time and energy you can give.
- Privacy: what you choose to share about yourself.
- Belongings: what you’re happy to lend or share.
02Ways people express a boundary
- “I’d rather not talk about that.”
- “I can help until 3 o’clock, then I need to go.”
- “Please ask before borrowing my things.”
- “I’d prefer a wave rather than a hug.”
03Saying no respectfully
- “Thanks for asking, but I can’t this time.”
- “No, thank you” is a complete answer.
- Offer another option only if you really want to.
- You can take time: “Let me think about it.”
04Respecting other people’s boundaries
- Ask before touching, photographing or sharing.
- Accept a no without pressure.
- Don’t ask people to justify their boundaries.
- Check in: “Is this okay for you?”
05Boundaries in groups and volunteering
- What people share in the group stays in the group.
- Anyone can choose to pass or sit out an activity.
- Know what your volunteer role includes, and what it doesn’t.
- Raise concerns with a supervisor or someone you trust.
Talk it over
- What are some kind but clear ways to say no?
- How might customs about personal space or privacy differ between people?
- What shared guidelines could help a group feel comfortable and respected?
- How can you tell if someone might be uncomfortable, and what could you do?
Reflect
Think of a boundary that matters to you. How could you express it in one sentence?
When is it hardest for you to say no? What words could help you next time?